Enter June....
I had been working from home since End March and it had been an interesting experience.
Growing into parenthood, adulthood, middle-age all at home during this period.
During this period, I saw many things that I would have usually missed. I tried not to rush, I slowed down with my children.
Sometimes the slowing down worked, sometimes it didn't and we couldn't.
Home-based learning was a challenge for all parents, sometimes our children behaved like model students and sometimes they don't.
Some children can finish their work in record speed, some took several hours or an entire day.
One thing for sure, it all takes time to develop a routine and create habits.
Nothing is impossible for our children to do, but its about reminding them about the right habits and good habits to have.
I admit that I was one the many parents that were driven crazy by HBL, believe me shouting was unavoidable.
I repeated myself on making effort and paying attention to self.
I repeated myself a million times on being mindful with their words and understanding their own emotions.
I reminded myself to calm down million times.
I avoid insanity by looking for things to do together with my children.
No, I did not join the baking team, cooking team.
We did long walks, we marathon on 西游记 moderately😄, we sat down and have meals together.
We investigated questions and things they wondered. We learnt how to use the internet for research.
I tried my best. Making effort and see changes. There have been improvements but its one step at time with two steps back. Then one step forward again...
Thankfully I have 2 children and they take turns to inspire me and also drive me to the borders of insanity.
So I know that by trying my best, it is possible but it takes lots of emotional and mental strength.
We try our best everyday as parents, we face struggles but we feel thankful that this period we have them together with us during this period. They have adapted somehow, and so have we.
We continue to adapt and be resilient together.
Thursday, June 4, 2020
COVID-19 as part of our daily lives-2020
2020 CNY eve came quickly and I felt compelled to get things ready with many last min touch ups. As much as I tried to prepare for the new year, there was just too much to do.
Spring cleaning, making space, it ever seemed to end. Every thing was just too much. I asked for help and it came but it was just not enough or too little too late.
Suddenly on the eve of Chinese New Year, at the tail end of the Pig something unexpected and without warning came on our shores.
COVID-19, first the lockdown of an entire city- WUHAN or otherwise known as the epicentre of the virus. It was about month from today.
It took people of my age by surprise, in one of the largest lockdown ever recorded we saw an entire country But what caught me by surprise even more was how people reacted. I was surprised by the swift action that China took but I was also dismayed by how the initial investigations still had China ‘cover up’ written all over it. Many Chinese felt that had the local authorities not tried to cover it up, the extent of damage and lives lost might have been mitigated.
Families who were supposed to get together for the Spring Festival or 春节 could not spend it with families and friends. Overseas workers who went back home for the holidays ended up being caught in the midst of the chaos that eventually ensued due to the international community to contain the virus and prevent its spread to their shores.
Back at home in Singapore, we caught the COVID-19 and despite seeing the illness on our shores I truly believed that we well prepared even before the panic set in. The NCID just opened, our experience with SARS and our authorities responded quickly.
Was I worried, yes but I believed I had a responsibility towards myself and my family to keep ourselves safe. Not through panic but by understanding better what COVID-19 was.
I read the news, read the data and found some medical sources. Then I found lancet.com, a resource centre based on research as it happens during the course of the entire illness.
I went on Lancet.com, read about COVID-19 and the epidemiological data and how it affects us. And I realised that it is not something that we fear. But what should understand.
Fear is something that captures an individual but it is how we can overcome it. We do not seek to simply understand but we need to assimilate and adapt. This is how we can navigate through these uncertain times and this situation calls for it. By being rational and not adding stress to an already stressful environment.
It is not something that we can avoid but it is something that we need to overcome. By displaying empathy, showing emotional strength and learning important lessons from the current situation.
The unprecedented spread of the COVID-19 opened up to serious repercussions to all individuals; psychologically, emotionally, economically and politically.
I saw the ugly side of humankind and the lack of values and character that individuals presented during this time. During SARS, the internet and social media was not like today; yet with technological advancements we also saw the regression of character at this time. People pinpointed, made accusations, lacked understanding and rationale to find out more to better help themselves.
They wanted help but yet could not help themselves by searching for the right information. Medical staff again are blamed for putting themselves on the frontline to help keep the rest of the country safe.
Now that the rest of the world has started, we see the effectiveness of the lesson we learnt from SARS and how prepared we are at defending our country from all these silent attacks.
What does this tells us, we cannot fully prevent it from happening to us but it is important to learn from past lessons so that it does not happen again. During SARS we lost medical staff but this time with COVID-19 we did not suffer any casualties even at the initial stages. We are still battling and we will continue to battle until the epidemic alert is lowered at an international level.
As of today more than 30 countries have cases, compared to SARS where it was isolated to Asia but with many countries facing winter season the damage caused by COVID-19 may be higher than expected. That is why our we should not let our guard down but instead face it with the right mindsets and attitudes.
Fear is a mindset, by facing up to the fear and understanding what causes it can help create learning lessons to help you gain the right attitudes to face it. You might not overcome it completely but you can develop the right attitude and psychological skills to face it.
Fear is not something you run away from, but understanding the cause and effect it causes to you can let you develop the right attitude and characteristics to better yourself.
Fear develops a fixed mindset but by understanding fear and the cause of the fear helps one to develop the growth mindset to develop the right attitudes to overcome it.
I come to terms that COVID-19 will eventually be part of our daily lives. For the next year we might not completely eradicate it but we might face it like dengue. Only by developing a positive mindset towards ones life that you can help yourself overcome the situation before you.
I didn’t know I would have dengue 8years ago but I did and i the only thing I could do was to fight it and remain positive to understand what causes it and how to recover from it. Of course i was lucky not to get a more serious situation but I do know that I did not take my health for granted from day one. I knew good health was something that I had to work for and i think that helped me to develop a stronger immunity towards illnesses.
Only by understanding oneself first, you can understand how to live with all these uncertainties all round us. Preparing ourselves for uncertainties with a positive mindset, learning lessons and gaining understanding it stays with your for life. Make it part of your life today by moving forward and learning how to live with uncertainties and staying prepared.
Sunday, November 17, 2019
Potential
Cambridge English Dictionary defines it in a few ways, here are some that I relate to.
- possible when the necessary conditions exist
-someone’s or something’s ability to develop, achieve or succeed
- an ability the person has not yet developed
- able to develop in the future when the necessary conditions exist
They all mean more or less the same thing. Now when we relate that to children I often wonder..being a mother I look at my children and I wonder how can I develop such ‘potential’ for them.
So I asked myself this question, what is my potential? I mean let’s face it, every single human being has potential so what sort of potential are you talking about?
I’m not a scientist as neither am I a psychologist, but one thing I know for sure is there is a chance for something good to happen if the base conditions are set right. With the right intentions and values.
The ideologies that go behind developing that potential should not stem from desires but from a single question that starts with if and can it be......
All things take preparation and with that preparation it takes discipline and the determination to see things through. The focus to drive efforts and continuity to the next level. If it’s something that requires a singular effort then of course an individual with the above values can see it through.
NO MAN OR WOMAN IS AN ISLAND
When you have a team you ask yourself this, who are your team? Are they fully committed into this or are they part here or part there. Are ready to be in this together and are standing with you. I do not think that anyone person is indispensable neither do I think no one is irreplaceable but I do know that each person has a value that they contribute to a team. And that is what makes a team special.
The potential that you can uncover by having teammates is multiplied by the number of team mates you have. As this will also affect your own reflections as team leader or team member. One question that you will have to ask yourself - have I done my part well as a team leader and have I done my job well as the leader to split the responsibilities amongst my teammates so that the fullest potential can be reached.
Am I the only one person or I feel supported?
Is the individual driven to their fullest potential to achieve their personal best or success?
Is there only one or many that find personal success and achieve their own personal best?
Let’s celebrate these moments of personal success and best lest we forget how much work and effort was put into each moment to create an opportunity for potential to be discovered!
Cambridge English Dictionary defines it in a few ways, here are some that I relate to.
- possible when the necessary conditions exist
-someone’s or something’s ability to develop, achieve or succeed
- an ability the person has not yet developed
- able to develop in the future when the necessary conditions exist
They all mean more or less the same thing. Now when we relate that to children I often wonder..being a mother I look at my children and I wonder how can I develop such ‘potential’ for them.
So I asked myself this question, what is my potential? I mean let’s face it, every single human being has potential so what sort of potential are you talking about?
I’m not a scientist as neither am I a psychologist, but one thing I know for sure is there is a chance for something good to happen if the base conditions are set right. With the right intentions and values.
The ideologies that go behind developing that potential should not stem from desires but from a single question that starts with if and can it be......
All things take preparation and with that preparation it takes discipline and the determination to see things through. The focus to drive efforts and continuity to the next level. If it’s something that requires a singular effort then of course an individual with the above values can see it through.
NO MAN OR WOMAN IS AN ISLAND
When you have a team you ask yourself this, who are your team? Are they fully committed into this or are they part here or part there. Are ready to be in this together and are standing with you. I do not think that anyone person is indispensable neither do I think no one is irreplaceable but I do know that each person has a value that they contribute to a team. And that is what makes a team special.
The potential that you can uncover by having teammates is multiplied by the number of team mates you have. As this will also affect your own reflections as team leader or team member. One question that you will have to ask yourself - have I done my part well as a team leader and have I done my job well as the leader to split the responsibilities amongst my teammates so that the fullest potential can be reached.
Am I the only one person or I feel supported?
Is the individual driven to their fullest potential to achieve their personal best or success?
Is there only one or many that find personal success and achieve their own personal best?
Let’s celebrate these moments of personal success and best lest we forget how much work and effort was put into each moment to create an opportunity for potential to be discovered!
Thursday, August 22, 2019
My last post
My last post was in 2013...
This is my new post from 2019...
Look at how motherhood and work has made it harder for one to speak of own thoughts and ideas.
I think I changed a little over the last few years. With managing 2 primary school going children.
It’s the side where being a mother means developing your child to their fullest potential.
Trying to decide if what they want is a whim or fancy which last only for a while or can they do it one their own without external influences or help.
So what now.
Adventure on...
This is my new post from 2019...
Look at how motherhood and work has made it harder for one to speak of own thoughts and ideas.
I think I changed a little over the last few years. With managing 2 primary school going children.
It’s the side where being a mother means developing your child to their fullest potential.
Trying to decide if what they want is a whim or fancy which last only for a while or can they do it one their own without external influences or help.
So what now.
Adventure on...
Thursday, March 14, 2013
2nd Time mummy around! Good Times and Rough times, Never any Bad times!
Hello! Its been awhile! Well, things have changed and I have become a mummy second time around.
This second time round, things change alot. And I mean alot.
But one thing that hasn't, how people judge you based on the basics shared. Some people think that by doing what I do, I am selfish and I don't seem to be able to balance work and family properly. But for those who know what is happening, you actually stop judging and start understanding. Rather than to assume that its selfish and individual reasons, when you really know why then one realises that there is not much of a choice.
People are still the same, they judge and assume and think what they want to think. Sad to say that people do change for better or for the worst. And I have experienced both ends. I like to think that I have changed for the better in some areas and there are some areas I like to improve upon. Some people have changed so much that it worries me and the presumption they have to others is amazingly negative.
I have faced certain levels of negatively in my life and never have I felt so much simply because of the circumtances that I am in. I don't fault anyone and all I want to do is to improve upon it. You cannot dwell on problems, you have to solve it. And once I solve it, I will have all the time in the world. But now is not a good time, but I hope to those that matter you see that I am balancing out as much as I can.
We all inspire to be the Best!
This second time round, things change alot. And I mean alot.
But one thing that hasn't, how people judge you based on the basics shared. Some people think that by doing what I do, I am selfish and I don't seem to be able to balance work and family properly. But for those who know what is happening, you actually stop judging and start understanding. Rather than to assume that its selfish and individual reasons, when you really know why then one realises that there is not much of a choice.
People are still the same, they judge and assume and think what they want to think. Sad to say that people do change for better or for the worst. And I have experienced both ends. I like to think that I have changed for the better in some areas and there are some areas I like to improve upon. Some people have changed so much that it worries me and the presumption they have to others is amazingly negative.
I have faced certain levels of negatively in my life and never have I felt so much simply because of the circumtances that I am in. I don't fault anyone and all I want to do is to improve upon it. You cannot dwell on problems, you have to solve it. And once I solve it, I will have all the time in the world. But now is not a good time, but I hope to those that matter you see that I am balancing out as much as I can.
We all inspire to be the Best!
Tuesday, September 4, 2012
Family Adventure at Legoland - 1 Sept 2012
Being 38weeks pregnant and having an opportunity to visit Legoland before it opened officially on 15 sept was a chance not to be missed!
Before baby boy is born we will make one more trip with Elayna as a family of 3 to Legoland! Thanks to my cousin we managed to gain entry through private media event for Legoland before its doors opened to public on 15 Sept!
It was a sunny day as we set out from Singapore at 9:00am towards Tuas Link and we made a quick stop just after the toll for a quick breakfast. After the pit stop we resumed our way towards exit 312 nearing Legoland!
All in all with passing both customs,taking a break, we took under 1hour to reach exit 312. Upon exiting we had no problem finding our way towards Legoland with all the various road signs indicating Legoland and all the banners showing us the way towards Legoland. We finally arrived close to 10:45am.
We made a short wrong turn to a carpark but we subsequently found our way towards the correct carpark (carpark 1) to arrive at the welcome walkway. The long walkway towards the ticketing counter from the car park was a challenging walk for my 91 year old grandma and was quite a distance for E who was the shortest person in the group to walk to far, of course she had to be carried by daddy to the entrance.
When we did reach there we found a q at the various counters for invited guests who were redeeming tickets or purchasing additional tickets.
Once you arrive at the ticketing counter you see all the lego figurines and the design all reminding us that this is Legoland and you are finally here.
When we got into Legoland, you will see first the Legoland shop which houses various current popular Lego toys appealing to all the young and adult alike.
The first thing I noticed about the park was that it was spacious with seats before the shop. Unfortunately, strollers were not available for rental but luckily wheelchairs were available for grandma. By the time we got the wheelchair it was about 11am.
The first thing we noticed was the 4 seater roller coaster called the Technic Twister, it did not look that high and not that scary at first impression. Being 38weeks preggy meant that I could not sit on it at all, but hubby went with my cousin but just before they were about to be next for the ride there was a technical fault. After being in the queue for the ride for about 40mins, they decided to give up the ride as there was no sign that the ride will resume anytime soon.
While waiting for them at the ride E got to try the water cannon, this was quite fun as this acts like a sabotage effect for those who were riding the Aquazone wave racers splashing them with water! The ride had not started yet when we were there so E got to try her hand at the cannon!
There wasn't any ride at this themed area for Elayna to sit so we had to give it a miss as she was not tall enough to take any of the rides. It then became our mission to find rides that she could do.
We walked towards Lego Kingdom and there was another roller coaster which looked like a Lego dragon - The Dragon. Unfortunately she was not tall enough to ride and thankfully to make up for that disappointment, there was a playground called The Forestmen's Hideout for her to play in. While daddy accompanied her in the playground I went around to explore the rest of Kingdom.
It was this time that I found several other rides and I found one that she could do! - Royal Joust!
At first I was worried that she may not want to do it alone, but to my surprise she did it all by herself. This tells me that she has grown up quite a bit! Was so proud of her! Throughout the ride, she kept going Go Horsey Go! She was having so much fun. This was the only ride she could do at the Lego Kingdom that she could do as many of the rides required a minimum height.
Along the way, we also noticed some carnival games that visitors could play, but it put me off as it required us to pay to play.
We next came to Miniland and we had to skip it as E was attracted by the play ground but the thing that caught our eyes first was this - Singapore!
After the playground, grandma had to go home and we continued our family adventure at Legoland. But before we went forward we had a break for lunch at their Market restaurant.
They had a varied menu here but at 1pm, they ran out of fish and chips and lucky for us we got the last few chicken rice. I opted for the fried black pepper Udon with Shrimp as I felt that the chicken rice, had abit too little rice for my pregnant state. Whereas their kids portion of chicken rice was pretty good at RM15 which came with main course, ribena and fruits. But E wiped out not only her chicken rice but also daddy's rice too! And daddy wiped out the rest of my udon as I found it too peppery for my liking. I ended up having more fruits and cleaning up my strawberry slushie which was a wonderful comfort for the hot day.
The other thing I would complain at the restaurant was the menu labels, I went to one counter that said Black Pepper Udon and the staff pointed to to another counter where I should be ordering the food from. But what I would say is that the kids menu portion was abit small and with kids running about all day, I suppose a larger portion would be better. But since they have F&B kiosks about, it may work out but E can be quite particular about what she wants to eat so it seems quite limited.
After lunch, we decided to hit across the restaurant for the train ride around Legoland. It was a short train ride but E was pretty excited about it with her going choo choo all the time while waiting for the train. When she finally got on she was so happy!
We caught sight of many things along the way on the train ride.
When we got off the train, E was abit sad as she wanted to go on it again but the queue was so long so we convinced her that we will go to Land of Adventure to look for more rides! And she agreed. But along the way, she got distracted by one thing....
Lego cars! She bounce into the ride at the Junior Driving school for kids 3-5yrs old whereas the Lego driving school was for kids from 5yrs old up. She got into a bumper car ride with another younger kid but she was really good instead of getting angry she got even and raced pass the other driver and proudly exclaimed that she won!! Initially she had some problems but with some practice with the car she managed to get the hang on it. Again, I was amazed by how much she has grown from in 6months. When we went to HKDL she was still worried about sitting alone for some rides. But I believe these rides look smaller and less intimidating for her. After the drive we managed to convince her to the Land of Adventure. But along the way, mummy and daddy stopped by at Mini land and managed to catch some of the Mini land features.
When we arrived at Land of Adventure we saw the Lost Kingdom ride but they were closed for maintainance, but we saw something that E could do, Beetle Bounce!
This was one ride that saw her laughing from the start to the end of the ride. She was laughing, giggling throughout the entire ride and when it ended she ended on a high!
After the ride, she saw another playground called Pharoh's revenge and it was essentially picking up the balls and allowing it to explode upwards with the balls firing all around the place. Daddy played with her while I waited outside and I could hear her laughing inside. One thing to note though, parents with young children should always have one adult acompanying them as there are other larger kids and I mean larger kids like 10 - 12yrs old who are also playing inside and can easily knock the smaller kids over. Hubby also wondered how regularly do they clean or change the balls as E hands were all dirty and black by the time she came out. Luckily we were equipped with both wet wipes and hand sanitizers. I would advise parents to bring along wet tissues and hand sanitizers when bringing the kids to these rides and games as they can be quite a challenge to find a toilet at this particular themed land.
We took a short break at the F&B kioks here and I managed to catch a bite with a Jumbo chicken hotdog which tasted quite good or I could be hungry with me wiping out another bottle of mineral bottle there.
Along the way we saw more of those pay to play carnival games.
We went on to Imagination land and Daddy and E went to catch the 4D movie just in time. I didn't go in as we checked if its advisable for pregnant women, they said there were no moving seats but there were some foam and gas so maybe not that advisable. So I sat that out and they managed to get in after some checks with the staff inside the theatre. They watched the 4D racing movie and I think Daddy enjoyed it more than E did.
When they came out, we went on our way but not before E was caught by a CNA reporter - Melissa Goh for an impromptu interview about the park. She of course answered everything with a Yes. And was the perfect interviewee.
Along the way back from 4D land towards the main entrance we saw the train again. This time E waved hello to everyone!
By then, it was already nearly 5:30pm and E had gone without her nap for the entire day and she was on a high. And since we promised that at the end of the day we will visit the shop we brought her to the shop and let her see what she would like to buy. Ended up she bought a Princess Sword, a Lego Friends box set. Daddy got for himself a Lego bike traffic police officer. He likes the bike. Mummy got the Legoland magnet which is what I often do whenever I go someplace, I would get a magnet signature of the place.
The only thing is the magnent didn't say Legoland Malaysia, that would be unique.
After the shop, we visited the cafe which served pasta, breads, sandwiches and there wasn't much food left as they close at 8pm that day. Which meant that E didn't have much to eat, luckily by then 6:30pm she was so tired that all she wanted to do was eat a red bean bao which they had there and it was nearly 3/4 of her face. The bao was big but the filling was not much at all. But I think the lunch was still quite filling and she was so tired out that she didn't complain much when we said that we wanted to her to change to new clothes so that she would be more comfortable in the car. We found a family room with changing facilities and all but the lock was abit spoilt so midway while we changing her someone managed to pull the door opened.
It took us quite some time to change her, we went in with the sun up and we came out the sun was down. Outside the clown was still entertaining visitors with ballon sculpting and little tricks for children and family but we made our way out as we wanted to avoid any jams leaving the causeway. As we left, we saw how the lights lit the words at the entrance way and we managed to ask someone to take a family picture for us.
As we left the park, we were left abit confused on which way to exit towards Tuas so it would be better if there were directions as it was not as brightly lit or as clear on how to leave the place.
After the entire day of fun, E fell asleep in the car seat once the car started moving. And I guess that for a 38weeks preggy like me to be able to walk about for a full day and finding the available seating around the park near the rides was good. Although I thought that more shade would be good at Land of Adventure as it was a pretty hot day. And the F&B kiosk could do with more cold mineral water but they made up for it by giving us a cup of ice water to make up for the lack of chilled mineral water.
All in all, Legoland is a good place for families with children with the most of the rides being more for kids than adults. The playground at each themed land is a good addition for kids who may not be able to enjoy all the rides but be warned that parents have to accompany or be near by so that if you have a child younger than 6yrs.
But if they were to open at full capacity I wonder if they would be ready as some of the rides and the restaurants do not seem to be ready to handle full load of tourists. If that day was not at full operation capacity and they ran out of certain foods by 1pm and 6pm when their closing time is 8pm that may be a letdown. Service at the Market Restaurant was not as good as at other F&B kiosks and restaurant but that could be due to the fact that they looked overloaded at lunch time.
Rides for children are only good if your child is 100cm and above, so my next visit to Legoland would be when E is around 100cm tall so that she can sit on most rides. But in essence the best height is when they are 120cm tall and this would mean taller kids around 10 - 12yrs old. But if you really want your child to be able to enjoy parts of the park, best to know if your child can sit on rides on their own even with them hitting the height requirements. If they do not dare to sit rides on their own, best not to visit as alot of the kids rides are lone riders only.
The put off was the pay to play carnival games, although there were prizes but I think that if we have paid for admission I would not want to pay to play more.
Prices for the day where it was 10% off merchandise and 30% off food which makes it a good deal as 30% off food made a difference when you are left with limited choices.
Getting to the park from Tuas was easy and fast less than 45mins without any jam at the customs - How to get to Legoland
But getting out may prove abit confusing for those first time visitors there. Lucky for us we managed to spot the road sign up above the highway leading to Tuas so leaving Legoland at 7:30pm to reaching back home at 8:15pm including passing customs and all was not too bad at all.
I will look forward to next year when the water park opens before visiting again, by then E should be tall enough for most of the rides. And hopefully, we will not hit large crowds when visiting the next time.
It was a sunny day as we set out from Singapore at 9:00am towards Tuas Link and we made a quick stop just after the toll for a quick breakfast. After the pit stop we resumed our way towards exit 312 nearing Legoland!
All in all with passing both customs,taking a break, we took under 1hour to reach exit 312. Upon exiting we had no problem finding our way towards Legoland with all the various road signs indicating Legoland and all the banners showing us the way towards Legoland. We finally arrived close to 10:45am.
We made a short wrong turn to a carpark but we subsequently found our way towards the correct carpark (carpark 1) to arrive at the welcome walkway. The long walkway towards the ticketing counter from the car park was a challenging walk for my 91 year old grandma and was quite a distance for E who was the shortest person in the group to walk to far, of course she had to be carried by daddy to the entrance.
When we did reach there we found a q at the various counters for invited guests who were redeeming tickets or purchasing additional tickets.
The first thing we noticed was the 4 seater roller coaster called the Technic Twister, it did not look that high and not that scary at first impression. Being 38weeks preggy meant that I could not sit on it at all, but hubby went with my cousin but just before they were about to be next for the ride there was a technical fault. After being in the queue for the ride for about 40mins, they decided to give up the ride as there was no sign that the ride will resume anytime soon.
While waiting for them at the ride E got to try the water cannon, this was quite fun as this acts like a sabotage effect for those who were riding the Aquazone wave racers splashing them with water! The ride had not started yet when we were there so E got to try her hand at the cannon!
There wasn't any ride at this themed area for Elayna to sit so we had to give it a miss as she was not tall enough to take any of the rides. It then became our mission to find rides that she could do.
It was this time that I found several other rides and I found one that she could do! - Royal Joust!
Along the way, we also noticed some carnival games that visitors could play, but it put me off as it required us to pay to play.
We next came to Miniland and we had to skip it as E was attracted by the play ground but the thing that caught our eyes first was this - Singapore!
After the playground, grandma had to go home and we continued our family adventure at Legoland. But before we went forward we had a break for lunch at their Market restaurant.
The other thing I would complain at the restaurant was the menu labels, I went to one counter that said Black Pepper Udon and the staff pointed to to another counter where I should be ordering the food from. But what I would say is that the kids menu portion was abit small and with kids running about all day, I suppose a larger portion would be better. But since they have F&B kiosks about, it may work out but E can be quite particular about what she wants to eat so it seems quite limited.
After lunch, we decided to hit across the restaurant for the train ride around Legoland. It was a short train ride but E was pretty excited about it with her going choo choo all the time while waiting for the train. When she finally got on she was so happy!
When we got off the train, E was abit sad as she wanted to go on it again but the queue was so long so we convinced her that we will go to Land of Adventure to look for more rides! And she agreed. But along the way, she got distracted by one thing....
When we arrived at Land of Adventure we saw the Lost Kingdom ride but they were closed for maintainance, but we saw something that E could do, Beetle Bounce!
After the ride, she saw another playground called Pharoh's revenge and it was essentially picking up the balls and allowing it to explode upwards with the balls firing all around the place. Daddy played with her while I waited outside and I could hear her laughing inside. One thing to note though, parents with young children should always have one adult acompanying them as there are other larger kids and I mean larger kids like 10 - 12yrs old who are also playing inside and can easily knock the smaller kids over. Hubby also wondered how regularly do they clean or change the balls as E hands were all dirty and black by the time she came out. Luckily we were equipped with both wet wipes and hand sanitizers. I would advise parents to bring along wet tissues and hand sanitizers when bringing the kids to these rides and games as they can be quite a challenge to find a toilet at this particular themed land.
We took a short break at the F&B kioks here and I managed to catch a bite with a Jumbo chicken hotdog which tasted quite good or I could be hungry with me wiping out another bottle of mineral bottle there.
Along the way we saw more of those pay to play carnival games.
We went on to Imagination land and Daddy and E went to catch the 4D movie just in time. I didn't go in as we checked if its advisable for pregnant women, they said there were no moving seats but there were some foam and gas so maybe not that advisable. So I sat that out and they managed to get in after some checks with the staff inside the theatre. They watched the 4D racing movie and I think Daddy enjoyed it more than E did.
When they came out, we went on our way but not before E was caught by a CNA reporter - Melissa Goh for an impromptu interview about the park. She of course answered everything with a Yes. And was the perfect interviewee.
Along the way back from 4D land towards the main entrance we saw the train again. This time E waved hello to everyone!
By then, it was already nearly 5:30pm and E had gone without her nap for the entire day and she was on a high. And since we promised that at the end of the day we will visit the shop we brought her to the shop and let her see what she would like to buy. Ended up she bought a Princess Sword, a Lego Friends box set. Daddy got for himself a Lego bike traffic police officer. He likes the bike. Mummy got the Legoland magnet which is what I often do whenever I go someplace, I would get a magnet signature of the place.
The only thing is the magnent didn't say Legoland Malaysia, that would be unique.
After the shop, we visited the cafe which served pasta, breads, sandwiches and there wasn't much food left as they close at 8pm that day. Which meant that E didn't have much to eat, luckily by then 6:30pm she was so tired that all she wanted to do was eat a red bean bao which they had there and it was nearly 3/4 of her face. The bao was big but the filling was not much at all. But I think the lunch was still quite filling and she was so tired out that she didn't complain much when we said that we wanted to her to change to new clothes so that she would be more comfortable in the car. We found a family room with changing facilities and all but the lock was abit spoilt so midway while we changing her someone managed to pull the door opened.
It took us quite some time to change her, we went in with the sun up and we came out the sun was down. Outside the clown was still entertaining visitors with ballon sculpting and little tricks for children and family but we made our way out as we wanted to avoid any jams leaving the causeway. As we left, we saw how the lights lit the words at the entrance way and we managed to ask someone to take a family picture for us.
As we left the park, we were left abit confused on which way to exit towards Tuas so it would be better if there were directions as it was not as brightly lit or as clear on how to leave the place.
After the entire day of fun, E fell asleep in the car seat once the car started moving. And I guess that for a 38weeks preggy like me to be able to walk about for a full day and finding the available seating around the park near the rides was good. Although I thought that more shade would be good at Land of Adventure as it was a pretty hot day. And the F&B kiosk could do with more cold mineral water but they made up for it by giving us a cup of ice water to make up for the lack of chilled mineral water.
All in all, Legoland is a good place for families with children with the most of the rides being more for kids than adults. The playground at each themed land is a good addition for kids who may not be able to enjoy all the rides but be warned that parents have to accompany or be near by so that if you have a child younger than 6yrs.
But if they were to open at full capacity I wonder if they would be ready as some of the rides and the restaurants do not seem to be ready to handle full load of tourists. If that day was not at full operation capacity and they ran out of certain foods by 1pm and 6pm when their closing time is 8pm that may be a letdown. Service at the Market Restaurant was not as good as at other F&B kiosks and restaurant but that could be due to the fact that they looked overloaded at lunch time.
Rides for children are only good if your child is 100cm and above, so my next visit to Legoland would be when E is around 100cm tall so that she can sit on most rides. But in essence the best height is when they are 120cm tall and this would mean taller kids around 10 - 12yrs old. But if you really want your child to be able to enjoy parts of the park, best to know if your child can sit on rides on their own even with them hitting the height requirements. If they do not dare to sit rides on their own, best not to visit as alot of the kids rides are lone riders only.
The put off was the pay to play carnival games, although there were prizes but I think that if we have paid for admission I would not want to pay to play more.
Prices for the day where it was 10% off merchandise and 30% off food which makes it a good deal as 30% off food made a difference when you are left with limited choices.
Getting to the park from Tuas was easy and fast less than 45mins without any jam at the customs - How to get to Legoland
But getting out may prove abit confusing for those first time visitors there. Lucky for us we managed to spot the road sign up above the highway leading to Tuas so leaving Legoland at 7:30pm to reaching back home at 8:15pm including passing customs and all was not too bad at all.
I will look forward to next year when the water park opens before visiting again, by then E should be tall enough for most of the rides. And hopefully, we will not hit large crowds when visiting the next time.
Friday, June 29, 2012
Raising Children in Singapore
Its been a while since I wrote anything and its rare that I can find myself awake at this time with a 2nd pregnancy.
Now the government says that they would want to review the parenthood and marriage policies at this point to boost the declining birth rates in Singapore.
But having spoken with several parents some of the most common agreements are:
- Too expensive to raise a child in Singapore
- School systems do not allow you to not stress your child
- High cost of living
- Lack of work-life balance
1) Too expensive to raise a child in Singapore and School systems do not allow you to not stress your child
These 2 go hand in hand in the thought where if you want your child to do well then you have to send them to the best tuition schools, start them in the right childcare/preschool/early education, send them to the right enrichment programmes (or as many as possible). And all the above requires one to spend more money.
Parents have to ensure that the child gets good grades so that they can go get their degrees, earn more money when they working, have a good life. All these starts with good education.
From the moment they are born, parents work hard to provide good childcare, preschools, early education programmes or enrichment to ensure that they have the luxury or benefit to do or anything.
But I think the value is lost the why are they sent for all these.
A) Is it because the child cannot earn more money without a good education? (We all know Steve Jobs did not have his degree - but he saw an opportunity and he perserved towards his goals)
B)The child has to do many tuitions to do well in education have good results to achieve the goal of earning more money or find a good career that earns them alot of money?
C)Is because they need to learn many things to be multi talented so that they can be versatile and be praised for being Jack of All Trades?
D)Is is because by knowing alot of things they can become more talented?
I think all the above has lost the true meaning for what experiences is all about. A child wishes to learn and as parents we support that learning and encourage that interest in learning. But if the child has lost interest and with a valid reason, I think we have to accept and move on.
Education is a must in today's context but honestly, with the right values taught wouldn't the child cultivate the right attitude towards learning at the end of the day? Where hard work would pay with the right smarts and opportunities would create the ability to do well.
I was having this discussion today about how luck can be part human and part divine intervention.
Part Divine Intervention - Where an opportunity if provided for you
Part Human - Where you evaluate if its an good opportunity and make the call to use it and also work hard on treasuring this opportunity given to you to make it a success. And how this good opportunity turns out is the result of one's own evaluation and determination to make it suceed, along with creating good plans and decisions to make it work.
So to determine luck or good fortune, I would say that it is 20% luck and 80% sheer human determination and perseverance.
I digress simply because I want to point out that nothing comes without any work or proper thought process and evaluation. Sometimes it takes abit longer but I think it boils down to what we what to make out of our lives.
Such as our children, where children have immeasurable amounts of potential but its finding the right source to unleash this potential. Identifying their individual characteristics and making a point to say that you are right and you should try.
As I grow, I learn from opportunites given and I have a feeling that as I continue to grow (er hem.) wiser. I would be making better decisions and working on getting better at understanding each particular characteristics.After all each child is unique!
I know that I have not hit the core of the issue at hand but raising a child is not simply about money, but in Singapore, money is a real issue that even affects how we can raise a child well. No matter how we want to avoid the money issue, we cannot. Realistically, we have to face this issue that we have to work harder or more to provide for our children.
But we also must look at how we can achieve that work-life balance but honestly in Singapore to achieve that, its really hard when our children attend tuition or enrichment while parents spend time working. Work-life balance applies to our children too, not just the adults. Undoubtly it is true that we wish to have more time to spend with our kids, we should also recognise how we want to spend the time we have with them. I think having regular chit chats, understanding how we can know our children better is one of them especially when they grow up so fast. Time v.s Money v.s Value. But the equation can never be Time+Money=Value when we apply to our children.
Now the government says that they would want to review the parenthood and marriage policies at this point to boost the declining birth rates in Singapore.
But having spoken with several parents some of the most common agreements are:
- Too expensive to raise a child in Singapore
- School systems do not allow you to not stress your child
- High cost of living
- Lack of work-life balance
1) Too expensive to raise a child in Singapore and School systems do not allow you to not stress your child
These 2 go hand in hand in the thought where if you want your child to do well then you have to send them to the best tuition schools, start them in the right childcare/preschool/early education, send them to the right enrichment programmes (or as many as possible). And all the above requires one to spend more money.
Parents have to ensure that the child gets good grades so that they can go get their degrees, earn more money when they working, have a good life. All these starts with good education.
From the moment they are born, parents work hard to provide good childcare, preschools, early education programmes or enrichment to ensure that they have the luxury or benefit to do or anything.
But I think the value is lost the why are they sent for all these.
A) Is it because the child cannot earn more money without a good education? (We all know Steve Jobs did not have his degree - but he saw an opportunity and he perserved towards his goals)
B)The child has to do many tuitions to do well in education have good results to achieve the goal of earning more money or find a good career that earns them alot of money?
C)Is because they need to learn many things to be multi talented so that they can be versatile and be praised for being Jack of All Trades?
D)Is is because by knowing alot of things they can become more talented?
I think all the above has lost the true meaning for what experiences is all about. A child wishes to learn and as parents we support that learning and encourage that interest in learning. But if the child has lost interest and with a valid reason, I think we have to accept and move on.
Education is a must in today's context but honestly, with the right values taught wouldn't the child cultivate the right attitude towards learning at the end of the day? Where hard work would pay with the right smarts and opportunities would create the ability to do well.
I was having this discussion today about how luck can be part human and part divine intervention.
Part Divine Intervention - Where an opportunity if provided for you
Part Human - Where you evaluate if its an good opportunity and make the call to use it and also work hard on treasuring this opportunity given to you to make it a success. And how this good opportunity turns out is the result of one's own evaluation and determination to make it suceed, along with creating good plans and decisions to make it work.
So to determine luck or good fortune, I would say that it is 20% luck and 80% sheer human determination and perseverance.
I digress simply because I want to point out that nothing comes without any work or proper thought process and evaluation. Sometimes it takes abit longer but I think it boils down to what we what to make out of our lives.
Such as our children, where children have immeasurable amounts of potential but its finding the right source to unleash this potential. Identifying their individual characteristics and making a point to say that you are right and you should try.
As I grow, I learn from opportunites given and I have a feeling that as I continue to grow (er hem.) wiser. I would be making better decisions and working on getting better at understanding each particular characteristics.After all each child is unique!
I know that I have not hit the core of the issue at hand but raising a child is not simply about money, but in Singapore, money is a real issue that even affects how we can raise a child well. No matter how we want to avoid the money issue, we cannot. Realistically, we have to face this issue that we have to work harder or more to provide for our children.
But we also must look at how we can achieve that work-life balance but honestly in Singapore to achieve that, its really hard when our children attend tuition or enrichment while parents spend time working. Work-life balance applies to our children too, not just the adults. Undoubtly it is true that we wish to have more time to spend with our kids, we should also recognise how we want to spend the time we have with them. I think having regular chit chats, understanding how we can know our children better is one of them especially when they grow up so fast. Time v.s Money v.s Value. But the equation can never be Time+Money=Value when we apply to our children.
Sunday, February 26, 2012
Values, Limitations
Sometimes I get really tired of doing what I do. I try really hard every single day and I try to do everything the best that I can but sometimes its just that I have my limitations.
But then I ask myself this question, limits is what we set for ourselves but as long as we try and push ourselves abit to determine exactly what that "limitation" is then we know what is our true strength.
The only thing I cannot control are the limitations set by others. I do not see it as a barrier but I see is as another problem which I need to evaluate or to solve.
I need to remind myself that this life is what I am given and what I make out of it. My values and my value is to who I am and what I am worth to myself.
I cannot stop others from thinking what they think and what they say but I can tell myself what do I mean to myself and to those who value and need me.
I know one thing is for sure, there is a purpose for me and this is where I find myself and what I do as true to who I can be.
To a certain extent there are certain physical limitations and that I concede and not refute but I know that one thing is that I value myself and that is why I will always understand where those limitations stand. But I refuse to concede to areas where I know I have to try and try unless the limitations are beyond my control after evaluations and solutions.
Its all life.
But then I ask myself this question, limits is what we set for ourselves but as long as we try and push ourselves abit to determine exactly what that "limitation" is then we know what is our true strength.
The only thing I cannot control are the limitations set by others. I do not see it as a barrier but I see is as another problem which I need to evaluate or to solve.
I need to remind myself that this life is what I am given and what I make out of it. My values and my value is to who I am and what I am worth to myself.
I cannot stop others from thinking what they think and what they say but I can tell myself what do I mean to myself and to those who value and need me.
I know one thing is for sure, there is a purpose for me and this is where I find myself and what I do as true to who I can be.
To a certain extent there are certain physical limitations and that I concede and not refute but I know that one thing is that I value myself and that is why I will always understand where those limitations stand. But I refuse to concede to areas where I know I have to try and try unless the limitations are beyond my control after evaluations and solutions.
Its all life.
Monday, October 10, 2011
How I feel today
Its been quite a while since I did put anything down. Today, something happened and my reaction of it was one of the strangest even to myself.
I just handled it so to put it simply. I think despite what kind of squemish feelings or unease some people might have thought, I think the most important aspect is the duty of care. All the kids that I care for, are just like my own. I think its important to have that mindset and say, I must learn to care for others before I can care for my own.
I must be able to to well myself before I can do well for others. But when is it good enough? When is enough for others to say I will do this too. I will be able to do this too. When everyone is different.
In reality, we all are different but how do we find the middle ground to say that HEY! lets get this going TOGETHER. Like how Baby E does it, lets put it together mummy :-)
Well, Baby E will be seeing Lion King for the 3rd time. First time on the top level, 2nd time from the dress circle, where she hi -five the 'Uncle who holds the bird' - her words not mine. This time from the stage level, will she touch the elephant or the rhino I don't know!
I am so so proud of Baby E and I hope she is proud of me too.
I just handled it so to put it simply. I think despite what kind of squemish feelings or unease some people might have thought, I think the most important aspect is the duty of care. All the kids that I care for, are just like my own. I think its important to have that mindset and say, I must learn to care for others before I can care for my own.
I must be able to to well myself before I can do well for others. But when is it good enough? When is enough for others to say I will do this too. I will be able to do this too. When everyone is different.
In reality, we all are different but how do we find the middle ground to say that HEY! lets get this going TOGETHER. Like how Baby E does it, lets put it together mummy :-)
Well, Baby E will be seeing Lion King for the 3rd time. First time on the top level, 2nd time from the dress circle, where she hi -five the 'Uncle who holds the bird' - her words not mine. This time from the stage level, will she touch the elephant or the rhino I don't know!
I am so so proud of Baby E and I hope she is proud of me too.
Monday, May 9, 2011
What I think so far - How has it been
What do I think so far? I have been a SAHM (with some PTWM aspects thrown in) for the past 1 week and the experience was humbling.
I was cleaning, washing, cooking(very little) and most of all taking care Baby E while at the same time potty training - imagine the amount of cleaning I have to do...sheesh.
But I think I have come to terms to how much tougher it is to be a SAHM and although I already knew how tough it was (which was why I never thought of being one in the first place and secondly I knew how tough it would be to balance as a FTWM but I still did) but this one week was humbling. I fufilled the basic conditions but I realised that I lacked in certain areas.
I guess having to do it full time at home was an eye opening experience that really taught me alot. I couldn't do anything else in the day to be honest, and while she was sleeping I had to do the housework that I couldn't do while she was awake. The only time I could work was when she was asleep for the day and like the time now is 2am, I am working on the finishing touches of what needs to be done.
But to be honest, I had my reservations on if i could do it, look after Baby E and yet be able to manage some of my own tasks. But i think I managed, abeit sacrificing some sleep in the process.
But this only goes to show the tenacity of a mother. A mother is one who is willing to go to lengths for their child and achieve beyond the norm.
Having said that, I do understand that the limits and faults of a person and although I know that I have done what needs to be done I do ask myself what else can be done. And as I do this exercise, I see the loopholes and my eyes are wide open to what else can be done. And I see alot.
The exercise that I do applies to all aspects and roles that I perform and fufill. I don't ever think of giving up as they define who I am and want to be for myself and to allow my child see that as long as you set your mind to it, anything is possible.
I don't want to be that person that gives up - bad example to set before my child.
Overcoming the obstacles, being true to who I am,that is who I want to be for her. And the type of person i want to become. I cannot be anything less. I must remember that.
Although in all honesty, I do sneak a break in sometimes as we all do. Its only about finding the balance in all.
=)
I was cleaning, washing, cooking(very little) and most of all taking care Baby E while at the same time potty training - imagine the amount of cleaning I have to do...sheesh.
But I think I have come to terms to how much tougher it is to be a SAHM and although I already knew how tough it was (which was why I never thought of being one in the first place and secondly I knew how tough it would be to balance as a FTWM but I still did) but this one week was humbling. I fufilled the basic conditions but I realised that I lacked in certain areas.
I guess having to do it full time at home was an eye opening experience that really taught me alot. I couldn't do anything else in the day to be honest, and while she was sleeping I had to do the housework that I couldn't do while she was awake. The only time I could work was when she was asleep for the day and like the time now is 2am, I am working on the finishing touches of what needs to be done.
But to be honest, I had my reservations on if i could do it, look after Baby E and yet be able to manage some of my own tasks. But i think I managed, abeit sacrificing some sleep in the process.
But this only goes to show the tenacity of a mother. A mother is one who is willing to go to lengths for their child and achieve beyond the norm.
Having said that, I do understand that the limits and faults of a person and although I know that I have done what needs to be done I do ask myself what else can be done. And as I do this exercise, I see the loopholes and my eyes are wide open to what else can be done. And I see alot.
The exercise that I do applies to all aspects and roles that I perform and fufill. I don't ever think of giving up as they define who I am and want to be for myself and to allow my child see that as long as you set your mind to it, anything is possible.
I don't want to be that person that gives up - bad example to set before my child.
Overcoming the obstacles, being true to who I am,that is who I want to be for her. And the type of person i want to become. I cannot be anything less. I must remember that.
Although in all honesty, I do sneak a break in sometimes as we all do. Its only about finding the balance in all.
=)
Sunday, April 10, 2011
Taking her out from school
I have finally made the decision to take baby e out from play school.
It was not the fact that she was crying all the time when we brought her to school but like clockwork she would attend school from mon to thu and on fri she would always develop a fever.it always pains me to see her sick and having to take all the fever meds.
So the end result after 3months of starting school and only attending at best 1month out of the 3,her natural reaction is to reject school.
I have decided to take her out but at the same time I cannot neglect her growing need to explore and learn. One of the biggest things I need to do is to develop a learning schedule for her so that her growing needs and her natural stage of development is not behind those of her age group.
They call it homeschooling.I just hope I can do it well.
It was not the fact that she was crying all the time when we brought her to school but like clockwork she would attend school from mon to thu and on fri she would always develop a fever.it always pains me to see her sick and having to take all the fever meds.
So the end result after 3months of starting school and only attending at best 1month out of the 3,her natural reaction is to reject school.
I have decided to take her out but at the same time I cannot neglect her growing need to explore and learn. One of the biggest things I need to do is to develop a learning schedule for her so that her growing needs and her natural stage of development is not behind those of her age group.
They call it homeschooling.I just hope I can do it well.
Saturday, April 2, 2011
Qing Ming Festival
Its Qing Ming Festival....so fast. Seems only like last year that I last went to pay my respects to my Dad.
Every year, it would be a thing my mum and I would do. But my mum has conveniently passed the baton to me and merely reminded me that I have to do it this year. Such convenience....
Well, makes me think about how Elayna has not been to see her ye ye before. And to be honest, memories of my dad are kinda fuzzy but I do know pretty much some parts of me are my dad too.
So basically as long as I live my life the best that I can be, I pretty much lived up to his expectations. =)
=)
Every year, it would be a thing my mum and I would do. But my mum has conveniently passed the baton to me and merely reminded me that I have to do it this year. Such convenience....
Well, makes me think about how Elayna has not been to see her ye ye before. And to be honest, memories of my dad are kinda fuzzy but I do know pretty much some parts of me are my dad too.
So basically as long as I live my life the best that I can be, I pretty much lived up to his expectations. =)
=)
Wednesday, March 30, 2011
Latest commands from E
The latest discussions or commands that Baby E has with me have been this way.
Baby E:Mimi(short for mummy) iphone please!
Me: Okay
E: Mimi clap (we listen to her CD in the car, yes she has her own children song cds in the car)
Me: Okay
Papa: *claps*
E: Papa drive!
E:Mimi come!
M:okay
E:Mimi, sit draw draw
Me:Okay, color in the line please
E:Okay
M: Good, Clever girl *claps*
E:Mimi, clap!
The story of Baby E! =D
Baby E:Mimi(short for mummy) iphone please!
Me: Okay
E: Mimi clap (we listen to her CD in the car, yes she has her own children song cds in the car)
Me: Okay
Papa: *claps*
E: Papa drive!
E:Mimi come!
M:okay
E:Mimi, sit draw draw
Me:Okay, color in the line please
E:Okay
M: Good, Clever girl *claps*
E:Mimi, clap!
The story of Baby E! =D
Monday, March 28, 2011
Things that I need to be done
Baby E has discovered the power of melodramacy. She cries by throwing herself on the floor and starts tearing up. This has inspired me to sign her up for singing & dancing classes to train her to use her dramatic talents to better use.
On another note, she has not been to school for nearly a month now and now whenever we talk about going to school she starts to cry and say no. She has always been resistant to the idea of going to school but I think this time she is serious. But I wonder.....what is the problem here. Taking her out of a 6 hour school is not the solution....Mummy's gotta think.
Baby E has way too much clothes and I need to start a pre-loved clothes sale blog thingy. Cos she has alot of clothes, either A)have not worn, B)out grew and worn a few times C)Clothes that have been worn and still in good condition.
Interestingly, she has the same situation with shoes. And mummy has the same problem.
Well Like Mother, Like Daugher....
=D
On another note, she has not been to school for nearly a month now and now whenever we talk about going to school she starts to cry and say no. She has always been resistant to the idea of going to school but I think this time she is serious. But I wonder.....what is the problem here. Taking her out of a 6 hour school is not the solution....Mummy's gotta think.
Baby E has way too much clothes and I need to start a pre-loved clothes sale blog thingy. Cos she has alot of clothes, either A)have not worn, B)out grew and worn a few times C)Clothes that have been worn and still in good condition.
Interestingly, she has the same situation with shoes. And mummy has the same problem.
Well Like Mother, Like Daugher....
=D
Monday, March 21, 2011
I think I got it
I think I have finally found a description for what I am feeling.painful & exhausted.but I tell myself this that nothing is impossible and it's possible to meet the impossible.
Out of myself
I have been out of myself lately.elayna getting food poisoning,angry at me for not being at home when she is sick and being stressed up at work.not getting enough sleep, waking up every 2hrs,keeping tabs on everything.well yeah,it's that way lately.hopefully next week will be a better week.
Monday, February 28, 2011
What can I do?
Somethings can never be perfect that I know. And I have often wondered how I can make things better.
I have failed in certain areas but I know I have done better in some. I know I cannot please everyone but I know I have tried to do what I could. I am not superhuman and I admire those who can.
I know I can't make things better in one go but I know sometimes it deserves another chance.
I get overwhelmed at times.
I think it takes a helping hand and a kind word to get things done. I try and I try everytime but I know it may not be the best but I hope it can.
I know one thing I firmly believe, I cannot give up and I cannot say never.
I do not face defeat with my head down but I will face it with all that I can.
I have failed in certain areas but I know I have done better in some. I know I cannot please everyone but I know I have tried to do what I could. I am not superhuman and I admire those who can.
I know I can't make things better in one go but I know sometimes it deserves another chance.
I get overwhelmed at times.
I think it takes a helping hand and a kind word to get things done. I try and I try everytime but I know it may not be the best but I hope it can.
I know one thing I firmly believe, I cannot give up and I cannot say never.
I do not face defeat with my head down but I will face it with all that I can.
Wednesday, February 23, 2011
What means the most to me
What means the most to me:
1)At 3am when my baby calls 'Ma Ma' and picks up her pillow and asks me to cuddle her to sleep
2) When my baby smiles and asks me with her big eyes while lying down to 'pat pat' her to sleep.
3)When she is sick and she needs to be the most comfortable and if that happens to be me, I will keep her sleeping on me
4)When I tell her I love her and she nods her head in response
5)At 4am when she finally falls asleep in her bed after telling me she wants a cuddle and 'pat pat'.
6)When she wakes up in the morning and calls 'Ma Ma' and smiles....
Nite Nite
1)At 3am when my baby calls 'Ma Ma' and picks up her pillow and asks me to cuddle her to sleep
2) When my baby smiles and asks me with her big eyes while lying down to 'pat pat' her to sleep.
3)When she is sick and she needs to be the most comfortable and if that happens to be me, I will keep her sleeping on me
4)When I tell her I love her and she nods her head in response
5)At 4am when she finally falls asleep in her bed after telling me she wants a cuddle and 'pat pat'.
6)When she wakes up in the morning and calls 'Ma Ma' and smiles....
Nite Nite
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
Headaches & 5am wake ups
Baby E will be turning 2 in Feb.how fast and it's 2yrs already. A simple plan to organise a party in school has turned into a major headache.*rubs forehead*
Just yesterday baby & daddy both decided to talk in their sleep.both conversed and mummy was right smacked between their conversation.
Daddy: drink water ok
E:ter ter. (for water)
E:decides to wake up at close to 5am
Mama!
Me: yes?(sleepy eyes barely opening)
E:bao bao
Me:it's sleeping time baby
E:bao bao *points to door*
Me:you want to go outside?
E:*nods head*
Me:ok
Carries her outside......
Just yesterday baby & daddy both decided to talk in their sleep.both conversed and mummy was right smacked between their conversation.
Daddy: drink water ok
E:ter ter. (for water)
E:decides to wake up at close to 5am
Mama!
Me: yes?(sleepy eyes barely opening)
E:bao bao
Me:it's sleeping time baby
E:bao bao *points to door*
Me:you want to go outside?
E:*nods head*
Me:ok
Carries her outside......
Friday, November 26, 2010
I am not very sure...
I am not very sure anymore on how things work.
Things that I am sure of I know I can get it to work
I fret on the normal daily things
I sense the lack of joy
I do not know what brings you joy
I do not know what makes you smile
I do not know what brings you happiness,
Not anymore
I can no longer do that
I can no longer make you smile
I can no longer do the things that make you happy anymore
What am I
Who am I
When am I
Feel the sadness
Feel the pain
Feel the hurt
It won't go away
I swallow and see the light
I mellow and realise
There is nothing
There is nothing I can do
To make you smile again
Things that I am sure of I know I can get it to work
I fret on the normal daily things
I sense the lack of joy
I do not know what brings you joy
I do not know what makes you smile
I do not know what brings you happiness,
Not anymore
I can no longer do that
I can no longer make you smile
I can no longer do the things that make you happy anymore
What am I
Who am I
When am I
Feel the sadness
Feel the pain
Feel the hurt
It won't go away
I swallow and see the light
I mellow and realise
There is nothing
There is nothing I can do
To make you smile again
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